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The man thought to be Britain's first 'male mother' has expressed his wish for anonymity and says that his 11-month-old daughter is a "little angel".
A reporter from the Mail on Sunday has tracked down the man, who they refer to as 'Bob', living in a town in the North of England.
He has said that he has no desire to talk publicly about his situation, like American transexual Thomas Beatie (pictured above) who made headlines around the world when he gave birth to a daughter in 2008.
It seems that Bob, 27, who was born a woman, gave birth to his daughter in March 2011, after stopping the male hormone treatment which enabled him to make the gender transition.
He had been living as a man for five years and had legally changed his name and gender, before deciding to conceive with his male partner. The couple have since separated and he is raising the child as a single parent.
His daughter was conceived using his own egg, but it is not clear how she was conceived or whether his former partner supplied the sperm.
He told the Mail: "It is not something I want to become famous for. I don't want everyone to know that I'm transgender."
He added: "I would certainly want to help people in an anonymous capacity but I wouldn't want to become famous for that, I wouldn't want to be known like Thomas Beatie. And I have to think of my daughter and I don't think it would be good for her."
According to the Mail on Sunday, Bob's daughter calls him "Dada" and refers to his former partner as her "other daddy".
In a blog which he kept to chart his pregnancy he wrote: "I'm not the first man to have a baby and I won't be the last, but we're not fully accepted and understood yet, there's still a long way to go."
It's not clear if he had gender reassignment surgery, but in his blog Bob explained that his pregnancy meant that he had to cancel an appointment with his doctor for chest surgery. As a result he was worried about how he'd cope when his breasts began to enlarge and produce milk.
In his final post in May 2011 he wrote: "I went through the pregnancy pretty damn well if I do say so myself." His account has since been deactivated.
News of the birth emerged last weekend when the Beaumont Society, a charity supporting transvestite and transgender people, revealed that a man had phoned a confidential hotline requesting information on the practicalities of having a baby after sex change surgery.
The man called again several months later to say that a baby had been born, but official bodies had no knowledge of the situation.
It is still not known whether the man identified by the Mail on Sunday is the same man who contacted the charity.
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